Help with granddaughter’s situation

I am a follower of Jesus Christ and am at odds as to what I should do. My granddaughter is living with a guy and they need things for the apartment. I have been asked if I would help her. I Know this is a sin and so does she. We were all raised in and believe the word of God. My question is how to show the love of Christ. I don't want her to think I am here to judge her. We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Praying you are able to answer my question.

What can be helpful in your situation is that you and your granddaughter are in agreement on how you both view her situation. Your dilemma is trying to determine how to give your granddaughter consistent messages of God’s love for her, your love for her and God’s will for holy living (1 Thessalonians 4:7).

One course of action would be for you to explain to your granddaughter that you, in good conscience, cannot assist her in her situation. This would be applicable if you believed you would be guilty of sinning against your conscience (Romans 14:23) by assisting her financially. You could affirm your love for your granddaughter but explain the reasons for not assisting her. One of the challenges with this course of action is trying to keep the lines of communication open with your granddaughter in the future.

Another course of action might be to provide assistance of some kind that does not go towards the maintenance of her shared apartment. Could there be a way that you express to your granddaughter your thoughts on the living arrangement and also provide assistance of some kind only for her? The limited information I have prevents me from going any further with this possibility.

You can certainly point your granddaughter to Jesus’ words of “seeking first [God’s] kingdom and his righteousness” (Matthew 6:33) and the Lord’s promise of taking care of the needs of people who do put him first in life. Sometimes people get involved in live-in situations for financial reasons and budgetary concerns. With Matthew 6:33 in mind, I like to remind people that God has his own math system for taking care of his people’s needs.

Finally, if your granddaughter is a member of a church, her pastor needs to become involved in the situation. This can alleviate some stress in your life.

God bless you with wisdom, love and strength!