Child moving out
We have a 25-year-old daughter who has a college degree, works 2 jobs, has a car payment and student loans. We suggested she live at home to save on bills, but would like to move out so she has her independence. My husband will not even discuss it with her or me. This is causing stress in both our relationships and I don't feel it should be an issue that divides us as a family. Thank you and God bless.
You are correct. This does not need to be an issue that divides you as a family. While I lack much information about your situation, your family could be struggling with how the fourth commandment finds application as all the family members age.
When your daughter was little, it was fairly clear how the lines of authority fell within the family. As in the case of any family, you and your husband were to instruct, guide, model and discipline your daughter as best you could, and your daughter’s obligation was to respond with loving obedience and respect. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
As your daughter grew older and lived more independently, the fourth commandment did not disappear from your lives. However, the scope of its application did change. This change manifests itself, no doubt, in that you and your husband supervise your daughter’s life less and are more of an influence on her. At the same time, your daughter is to continue to show loving respect to you and your husband. Tensions can arise, of course, when three adults—you, your husband and your daughter—express opinions about specific situations.
I would encourage you to speak to your pastor. He is in a position to sit down with you and guide you all through a loving discussion of this issue. God bless you and your family.