Follow up on question about divorce
I would like to get a little clarification on a question someone else asked in the Q &A before about divorce. The person was asking about abuse and this is the answer that was given: "Beyond physically deserting a spouse, the Bible does not specifically list other ways in which malicious desertion can take place (I Corinthians 7:15). As malicious desertion is characterized by sins that are unilateral, willful and permanent, it could take the form of physical or emotional abuse, refusal to have sexual relations with one’s spouse, or refusal to support the spouse financially. Because of the complexities of relationships, Christian discernment and pastoral counseling are essential when it comes to determining malicious desertion." I would like clarification on the portion that says "refusal to support the spouse financially." Before we were married it was agreed that my husband would take a manager position and support both of us. We've been married for over a year now and he has decided that he no longer wants to do that, nor does he have any plans of ever supporting both of us. I feel in Titus 2 God clearly says it is not the wife's position to be made to be a co-provider. I feel lied to by my husband and taken for granted. We've talked about this extensively and he will not budge on his stance. He doesn't know any married man whose wife doesn't work, some of those wives even make the majority of the income, and he feels I should be no different. I feel trapped in my marriage now. Is this in any way a biblical reason for divorce, or should I submit to my husband as God also says in the Bible?
The portion of the answer that you quoted explains in general what forms “malicious desertion” can take, including “refusal to support the spouse financially.” It would not be wise or practical for me to try to get into the specifics of your situation. This forum cannot substitute for counseling with one’s pastor. So, I encourage you to speak to your pastor. He is in a much better position than I to counsel you and your husband on the basis of God’s word. I pray that God will bless your family with his peace and love.