Does God choose your mate?

People make those choices.  God certainly knows what choices people are going to make, but people are free to marry or not marry (1 Corinthians 7).  If they wish to marry, it will be their choice—and of course their spouse’s choice.

If it were a matter of God choosing a spouse for a person, determining who that person is would be terrifically challenging and frustrating.  And, finally, how would we know for certain that person was God’s choice?  We know God’s will when he reveals it us in his word.  When God does not reveal his will regarding individual decisions like whom to marry, or whether to marry at all, people make choices and ask God to bless them.

That is why single Christians who wish to marry will ask God to bless their endeavors to find a godly spouse.  And a Christian will regard his or her spouse as one of God’s gifts (Proverbs 18:22), freely given.