Light for our path
My boyfriend and I are both WELS, but we rarely talk about our faith or religious topics, and when we do, it’s extremely awkward. How can I incorporate faith and the Bible into my relationship?
James F. Pope
I commend you for desiring to have a relationship in which your shared faith is prominent and open. Let’s see what might lead to bringing that about.
Be on the lookout
For starters, I hope you have talked to your boyfriend about wanting a deeper spiritual relationship with him. He is the one who really needs to know what is important to you and how concerned you are by this void in your relationship.
As you talk with your boyfriend, be on the lookout for ways in which you two can easily and naturally talk about the Christian faith. Do you worship together at the same church? If so, talk about what you heard in the sermon or the Scripture lessons. Do you live in different cities and worship at different churches? If that is the case, now you can really talk about what each of you heard in sermons and Scripture lessons. Are you two attending Bible classes—together or separately in different locations—that can provide conversational topics? Are there items from your personal Bible reading that you can share with your boyfriend, insights you have gleaned or items you have wondered about?
All my questions have Colossians 3:16 in mind: “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.” God’s desire is that his Word permeates the lives of his children. That certainly includes couples like you who are dating, those who are single, married couples, families, and Christians in general. Be on the lookout for ways in which you can naturally and regularly talk to your boyfriend about the Bible and the Christian faith and then seize those opportunities.
One of the best ways you can talk to your boyfriend about the Bible and the Christian faith is by reading and discussing God’s Word together. Where do you begin? Try reading one of the gospels together and discuss what Jesus said and did during his earthly life and ministry. Maybe you would benefit from reading a devotional book or commentary in connection with your Bible reading. Ask your pastor for suggestions if you are interested in books in these areas.
As you read the Bible together and discuss it, see if your conversations with each other don’t turn into conversations with God. Pray for and with each other. Prayer books can alleviate any uncomfortableness that your boyfriend might have if he is not used to praying aloud. In time, you both may find it very comfortable to pray for and with each other with your own words.
Be an example
Through your words and actions, you can be an example to your boyfriend and others in your circle of friends and family in how your conversation is “always full of grace, seasoned with salt” (Colossians 4:6). Who knows what may result from your example of expressing the Christian faith in your everyday conversations. You may wind up positively influencing not only your boyfriend but others as well! God bless your efforts.
Contributing editor James Pope, professor at Martin Luther College, New Ulm, Minnesota, is a member at St. John, New Ulm.
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Author: James F. Pope
Volume 102, Number 1
Issue: January 2015
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