Finding meaning in life

Is it OK to pray for death? My life is pointless and without meaning. My kids are older and my wife is self-sufficient. I have no reason to stay alive but won't take it myself. Is it a sin to pray for God to end my life and take me away from here?

I do have to say that I am very concerned about your question and your situation. While I am relieved to read that you recognize and intend to keep God’s fifth commandment, which includes forbidding self-harm, I am troubled to read that you believe your life is “pointless and without meaning.” This question and answer forum cannot replace the conversations people need to have with their pastors and health care professionals, so I strongly encourage you to initiate visits with those people. Without knowing any more of your situation, a sense of despair comes through your words. That is serious, and that is why I urge you to speak to people who are in a position to help you.

In general, is it OK to pray for death? There is nothing wrong in expressing to God our longing for heaven. In the opening chapter of his inspired letter to the Christians in Philippi, the apostle Paul conveyed thoughts like these: “For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith, so that through my being with you again your boasting in Christ Jesus will abound on account of me” (Philippians 1:22-26).

You notice that Paul had a longing for heaven, but at the same time he did not give up on this life. Paul’s attitude was that he would use his earthly life to serve God and others until the Lord called him home.

That is the same attitude I encourage you to adopt. If you were able to type and send in your question, you have capabilities that can be exercised to the glory of God and the good of your family and others. As a Christian, you have at least one spiritual gift (1 Corinthians 12:7) that can be used in the context of your family, your church family and your community.

Our life does have meaning and purpose—and it is all because of Jesus Christ. Don’t let Satan or others lead you to think otherwise.

Friend, trust that God knows best regarding the length of our earthly pilgrimage (Psalm 31:15). Speak to people who can provide care for body and soul. Above all, listen to the voice of your loving God who says to you in his word and sacraments: “I have loved you with an everlasting love” (Jeremiah 31:3).