My wife is seeking a divorce from me because she believes I'm abusive. She looked for advice from the pastor who directed her to our counselor. The counselor told her that divorce is the path she should take. Obviously there are more details to the whole situation, but is divorce the right step in this case?
I am not able to answer your question because, as you indicated, there are “more details to the whole situation.” Malicious desertion (1 Corinthians 7:15) can take the form of abusive behavior. Your pastor is best suited to answer your question. More than that, he is in a position to minister to you and your wife—using God’s law to expose sin and using God’s gospel to bring the comfort of the forgiveness of sins when sins are confessed. I pray that God will bring help and healing to you and your wife.